So much has changed in my life in the past few months.  I learned that my job is being discontinued at the end of the year and that I’ll soon be unemployed.  I learned that a very close friend that I trusted implicitly was no longer worthy of that trust and have all but ended the friendship as a result.  And I met someone.  Someone wonderful.  Someone who makes me feel special and important and like I have something to look forward to when I wake up each day.  It makes me feel silly and serious all at the same time.  And I’ve loved every minute of it.

We met almost 2 months ago and spent a few weeks getting to know each other.  Laughing at just how much we actually have in common.  I’ve never had that with anyone I’ve dated before.  In the past, I’ve had to strive to find similarities so there would be common ground to stand on and mutual interests to discuss.  It’s not like that anymore.  With him I’m able to talk about anything, mention any interest, and without fail he’s right there with me ready to talk about how much he likes it too.

It got to the point where we actually made a game out of finding differences instead of similarities.  It sounds strange, but we actually have to try to find them, and we have fun doing so.  Instead of saying, “Oh, you don’t like that?” we high five and smile that the differences we have only make us appreciate the other more.  We watch the same TV shows and movies, listen to the same music, feel the same way about friends & family, and stress the need for trust more than most.  Every time one of us tries to bring up something to talk about, it’s something the other one has an opinion about and an actual conversation can take place.  It’s such a welcome difference from dates I’ve had in the past.

We just celebrated one month together last night.  I know one month doesn’t sound like a lot to most people, but to us it was special.  We see each other almost every day with very few exceptions, and when we don’t get to see each other for some reason we’re both very disappointed.  When we first started dating he had a limited amount of text messages per month on his cell phone plan; it became evident early on that we wanted to remain in constant contact, and that those limited text messages would never suffice.  He upgraded to unlimited strictly because of me, and it’s a good thing he did.  Already this month we’ve both used over 2000 going back and forth together, and the month is only half over.

We both began the relationship with a number of insecurities, but we’ve begun working through them.  Neither of us actively tries to change the other, but we do work to improve ourselves and make positive change in our attitudes and thought processes.  Both of us are very self-deprecating, but can’t stand it in the other one.  It irks me when he talks down about himself when all I see is someone wonderful, and he tells me the same thing when I talk down about myself as well.  I actually find myself wanting to change for him, not because he’s asked me to, but because I know it will help our relationship.  I’ve never felt this way before, and I don’t believe he has either.

This past month has been great.  Beyond any words I could possibly write down here.  I find myself smiling more.  We have inside jokes that randomly pop into my head and make me laugh out loud for no apparent reason.  I count myself very lucky that I’ve found someone so great, and that he cares about me as much as I care about him.  I carry thoughts of him around with me all day long, and it helps me to be more positive and happy in my day-to-day activities than in the past, and some of my friends have noticed.

We’re in no rush.  We enjoy what we have, and happily anticipate what’s to come for us in the future, but we’ll get there when we get there.  I’m just loving the journey because I have the best companion at my side.

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